Sharing unpopular opinions has been trending on Twitter and I thought I’d join, so here are 10 of mine. Disclaimer: these are my opinions and I am not contending that everyone should agree with me, hence why they are unpopular.
- Going to private school and not having a ‘struggle’ life does not make me any less black than someone who grew up in the ‘hood’
I used to think that going to a private school meant that I was not street smart and did not form the required skills to survive in the ‘real world’ but I was very wrong. I was particularly insecure about my blackness as the normal narrative around black people is characterised by poverty, a terrible education and being around many other black people. But this is not true, and I struggle to see why people would want it to be true. Being black is not synonymous with being poor or uneducated. Being black entails a variety of experiences in which the common denominator is our skin colour. Whether you grew up in the suburbs or on a council estate, you will still be seen as black and treated accordingly. I did not come from a rich family, but I was awarded the privilege of attending a private school and this does not make me any less black than anyone else.
- Public proposals are coercive
I honestly don’t see why anyone would propose in public; it almost seems like you’re trying to force your partner to say yes. A proposal is a very intimate thing and should be done in private. There is no one else that needs to witness the proposal and it’s more genuine when it’s just the two of you.
- Boiled egg does not replace meat in a meal
Period. I know you Ghanaians will try and come for me, but boiled egg and meat are not the same thing.
- Uni is not that bad
Don’t get me wrong, uni is extremely stressful and mentally, physically and emotionally draining. But I don’t think it’s as terrible as people make it out to be. I believe that your uni experience is what you make of it. So, if you stay in your room all the time and don’t talk to people of course you won’t have friends. If you don’t go to your lectures and start essays the day before the deadline of course you’ll be stressed. If you don’t cook and order food everyday of course you’ll be broke and gain weight. I think there are ways to make uni more manageable and a more enjoyable experience. This does not mean the workload will be lighter but that you’ll be able to manage it in such a way that works for you.
- Sex should be saved for marriage
My main reason for holding this opinion is my religion. As a Christian I have been commanded to save sex for marriage and that’s what I’m gonna do. This does not mean I will judge people that choose to have sex, everyone is entitled to their own opinion and to live their lives as they choose. But soul ties are very real and we should all be carerful.
- Warm cereal is a move
I’ve always eaten my cereal warm and don’t understand how people eat it cold. The optimal way to eat cereal is to pour the milk into the bowl, warm it up (30secs – 1 min), add the cereal so it gets warm and save some at the top of the milk so you have a mixture of soft and crunchy cereal. Try it and thank me later.
- Females can form non-toxic and lasting friendships
There is this narrative that women can’t form genuine friendships and are always trying to sabotage or compete with their friends; which is supported by both men and women. I don’t believe this is always the case as I have formed some very positive and lasting relationships with females. Some of the most supportive friends I have are females and some of the most toxic people I know are males. I went to an all-girls school for 7 years and most of the people I met were friendly and supportive. I don’t think that the gender of your friends determines the nature of your friendships but rather your personalities and circumstances.
- Marriage is not by force
A lot of people want to get married young and feel that marriage is a goal that needs to be obtained but I do not think that is the case. Putting an age on when you want to get married will eventually lead to you accepting anyone that shows interest in you rather than waiting for the ‘right person’. I’m not saying that marriage is not a good thing for people to aspire to, but some people place so much weight on it that they will continue to be incomplete without a husband/wife. It is better for you to stay single than to be in a terrible marriage, and better for you to focus on your personal goals than looking for a spouse.
- There is nothing wrong with wanting a 9-5
In this age of social media and growing opportunities for creatives, many people have renounced the traditional 9-5 job in hopes of being their own boss. Whilst this is an amazing thing to aspire to, it is not for everyone. Some people want to go down the traditional route of going to uni and getting a grad job and that’s okay. Someone deciding to go down this route is not necessarily conforming or adopting their parents’ wishes, some people genuinely aspire to those careers. There is no need to force everyone to be their own boss.
- Fizzy drinks are disgusting
I stopped drinking fizzy drinks a few years ago in order to reduce bloating and improve my skin and it was one of the best decisions I have ever made. I could honestly never go back. Whenever I try and drink a fizzy drink now there is genuinely a war in my stomach. I’ve seen videos of people using coke to clean their cars or remove rust from keys and I just wonder how that drink is safe for consumption.
Let me know what your think of these and what your unpopular opinions are